1. Primary Emotional Response: Fear vs. AngerThe primary emotional response that people experience with OCD is anxiety and fear. For example, people with contamination OCD are scared that if they touch something dirty, they will get sick or make somebody they care about sick at a later date. Fear is all about anticipation that something bad will happen in the future.In contrast, the primary emotional response that people with misophonia experience are frustration and anger. Anger is a response when people feel that others are being inconsiderate or hurting them. When experiencing misophonia triggers, people feel assaulted by the sound in the present moment. The triggering sound feels unjust and unacceptable, leading to thoughts like: "Why can't they just stop?! Don’t they know how much I hate it?!"The intensity of misophonia is partially due to the difficult reality of living in a world where people will make triggering sounds on a regular basis - and there is little they can do. People are going to eat, breathe, cough, and sniff. The distressing unacceptable reality is already here - in the present.In short, anxiety emerges when anticipating an undesirable event, while anger arises when that unwanted event has already occurred.Both emotions are triggered by the presence of something undesirable, but OCD is about fear of the future, while misophonia is about the discomfort that comes with the reality of triggers in the present.Both are striving towards the impossible: People distressed by OCD want to completely eliminate the possibility that something bad will happen in the future. While people struggling with misophonia are trying/wishing to change the present reality – that people are and will continue to make triggering noises.
2. Relational Component: Misophonia Feels PersonalIndividuals with misophonia tend to find that when their misophonia initially developed, they were only triggered by a select few people. Typically, these are people close to them such as partners, parents, or siblings. Over time, triggers may generalize to other people and may eventually include everyone making the sounds.Misophonia seems to include a very relational component - it's personal. There is something about being triggered by specific people that impacts the intensity. Feeling as if a stranger was inconsiderate when they trigger you is one thing but feeling mistreated after being triggered by someone you are close to is another.In contrast, using our earlier contamination example, OCD doesn’t care about who or where the contamination came from. The only concern is the fear of what may happen if you are contaminated.Addressing these differences are crucial for successful treatment
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